Afraid of being thin?

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7/10/12 12:56 P

Good Morning Everyone!

I talked with a health educator at Kaiser this morning and came away with this gem that I plan to use frequently:

" Thank you, and it really helps me in my fitness efforts if we don't talk about it"
For when people make comments - usually positive acknowledgements about my successes and the visual result.

We talked about how most of the time the comments may be more for their benefit than mine, that it in someway gives them encouragement to try and to make changes in their own lives.

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7/10/12 12:08 A

I wish SparkPeople had something similar to a 'Like' button! When reading the replies there were so many that I would definitely hit 'Like' or 'Same for me'!

It is also hard for me to hear the comments ' Wow! you look great!' or 'You've lost so much weight' - and to date, I haven't even lost that much weight realistically.
Then when I'm not consistently exercising or eating healthy to hear similar comments, I think the people don't know what they're talking about.

Having been through some drama and trauma as a child, teen and adult with men and some women , the weight has been a safety net for me. It hit me that again I'm sabotaging my efforts, even after years of therapy around my experiences.
So today I made and appointment with a health educator at Kaiser to get some concrete tools to use to get me through this this time.
I was even in a PTSD support group for awhile a few years ago and some of the other members didn't feel safe that I am a Christian and were uncomfortable when I referred at all to my safe feeling in Christ. So it became uncomfortable for me to remain in the group and I left.

I hoped that I could not be effected by other's comments about my weight loss and changing body due to cardio and strength training. Clearly I'm not quite there yet.

Thank you everyone for your thoughts to the original post on this topic, I'm so glad that I found this thread!

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7/2/12 12:20 P

Working on not feeling apprehensive of all that comes with being thin...

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7/2/12 8:03 A

nope got 15 lbs to go to goal weight then I'll worry!

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7/2/12 4:46 A

Interesting question. Knee jerk response is, "Of course not!" And then, you start thinking, "Well, I wish I had that issue to worry about. And then, you start worrying about that non-existent worry, in terms of, "If I were thin, I'd probably stress about staying there!"

Since it's not going to happen any time soon, I'll just save the worry for when I get there, if that ever truly happens.

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7/2/12 12:18 A

I am somewhat nervous about reaching my goal. There's the pressure to maintain it, and I've been usually afraid of success. There are more expectations of you after you've become successful. But that's what this is about right? Changing yourself and your lifestyle to overcome those barriers and become a stronger person for it:)

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7/2/12 12:15 A

I don't think I'm afraid of being so thin so much as how I'll deal with the pressure of maintaining the weight loss and making sure the lifestyle changes I make are permanent and don't disappear as I get closer to my goal weight. This is what happened the last time I got down to a healthier size - I let all my good habits slip and gained back all the weight and then some.

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7/1/12 11:40 P

I agree with others I am not afraid of being thin I just don't want to be super skinny. I want to be a healthy slim feeling comfortable in my body. I love fashion so I want to be able to wear clothes that otherwise would not look right on my body, I want to be able to feel comfortable showing my legs and wear a swim suit, and I just want to be overall happy so that when I'm working out I can make it through successfully. I know my weight loss will attract attention but like so many others I don't want the unnecessary negative attention from superficial men just because of it. I already don't like being approached by men the few times when I am, it makes me uncomfortable and I do not know what to say, so I'm sure if that would happen once I become slim it would be really frustrating.

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7/1/12 10:47 P

No...maybe afraid of looking too thin for my height...

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7/1/12 10:35 P

Thanks for posting this question. It's thought provoking. At first I thought ha no way! But then I remembered when I WAS thin and had to deal with unwanted attention from certain types of men. This fat can be protective. Hmmmm.

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7/1/12 9:55 P

I am not afraid of being thin; I am afraid I cannot tame the beast called a habit that steers me toward food at night. I finally figured out why I do it ... when I was growing up my family would spend time together watching television and snacking on buttered popcorn in the evenings ... after dinner. We have a very close family and I associate this habit with warm and fuzzy feelings. I now have to disassociate snacking in the evenings with these feelings.

It isn't so much that I want to be thin ... I want to lose the fat I am carrying on my body and replace it with lean muscle.

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7/1/12 8:08 P

When I first started losing weight and people asked me what my goal weight was, they were shocked and said I would be too thin and that it was too much. When I lost the weight, they all said how great I looked and I was not too thin. Some of my family members worried about my new and improved self, but they also had a critical view because they themselves were overweight/obese and so to see someone at a healthy weight and bmi, it seemed too thin. For a long time, I obsessed over food and my weight and was scared to gain it back. Needless to say, I have packed some of the pounds back on and I am not very happy with it or myself for that matter. I'm not afraid to be thin, I'm afraid not to be!

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7/1/12 7:19 P

I'm not afraid of being thin. It's not really about being thin for me it's more about being healthy for a longer life. One thing I noticed is people close to me act like they are afraid of me being thin. It's like if they aren't doing it for themselves then they don't want me to do it or at least not to the point I am thin. My mom actually said she didn't think I would be able to maintain 145lbs (which is my goal weight for a healthy bmi.) It is irritating because right now I'm just trying to make my short term goals and not think negatively because then it will never happen.

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7/1/12 4:05 P

I have never been afraid of being thin, because barring some horrible illness, I will never be thin. I just want to be healthy, and for me, that will probably result in a "normal" or slightly bigger than "normal" size. But I won't be thin. My body just isn't built for thin. Am I afraid of reaching my goal weight? No way. I can't wait. It's just a number. It won't change anything about my life except my health and the ease of doing active things. But THOSE things will probably change my life LOL.

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7/1/12 3:34 P

Yes. But it's more like I'm afraid of wanting to be thin and failing. So now, I don't want to be thin. I want to be healthy.

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7/1/12 3:04 P

Not so much thin, but finally getting to where I want to be. I'll be thinking, "what next?" instead of just continuing my success as a healthier person. I'm going to be so frightened of reverting back to my old ways as I have often done in the past.
I just got over a two month depressive episode that gained me 20lbs and a pantry full of comfort food

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7/1/12 1:51 P

yes

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7/1/12 8:13 A

THIN IS IN A FAT IS OUT. LOL

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7/1/12 1:48 A

Lord No!!!!

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7/1/12 12:46 A

ha ha ha ha

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7/1/12 12:43 A

Ha- dont think so.

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7/1/12 12:41 A

Sometimes, I try to imagine what things might be different and I just can't. But I'm not so afraid that I don't want to change.

Edited by: ISAHLIA at: 7/1/2012 (18:44)

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7/1/12 12:22 A

not at all

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7/1/12 12:03 A

no

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6/30/12 10:20 P

No. But I would be afraid of being boyishly thin or too thin where my head looks too big for my body. I see too much of this in the media.

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6/30/12 7:57 P

I will be 39 next month, I was overweight from age 5 on to adulthood reaching morbidly obese in my 20's. In 2006 I had enough and had gastric bypass surgery in order to get my weight and health under control. I subsequently lost a lot of weight, I was so happy I just kept going. Longing for the next smaller size, I went from a size 28 to a size 4 being big and I wanted to keep going, Until people started telling me I looked like hell, I looked sick. I thought, "they are just jealous." Wrong, I did look sick, my face was so thin. Well needless to say I decided that I needed to gain back a FEW pounds. How easy it was to fall back into old eating habits. I gained back that few pounds I wanted too, plus and extra 40. So here I am.

So to answer the original question; no I am not scared to lose the weight, already been there, I am scared of gaining to much, but also don't ever want to get TOO SKINNY again either. So there is a fine line that I have found I need to follow, my main goal is to learn to eat right to live a healthy lifestyle where the word DIET is no longer in my vocabulary.

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6/30/12 5:15 P

nope...afraid of being obese

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6/30/12 1:07 P

nope

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6/30/12 12:44 P

No, not afraid of being thin, don't WANT to be thin...WANT to be healthy.

There is plenty of thin in third world countries where they don't have enough to eat.

The Hollywood Media has made thin the desired thing here in the USA, causing anorexia,

bulemia, and other food disorders. How sad that in a land of plenty, we want to be thin.

I am so thankful for all of the healthy food we have, and will eat and drink what is good to the

glory of God. I am also thankful for Spark People and the nutrition tracker which helps me

not to over eat too much of those wonderful healthy foods in our blessed land of plenty.

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6/30/12 5:43 A

afraid of being FAT

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6/30/12 4:01 A

Really?? Wrong site for this question.

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6/30/12 3:43 A

I'm not afraid of being thin but of being wrinkled. We've all seen those TV programmes where people lose weight and all their skin sags down in great folds. I don't want to be like that and I think that's why I am not losing weight. I don't want my face to be wrinkled and a little bit of fat helps to puff out the wrinkles.

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6/30/12 1:46 A

Uh, well, in some ways....yes. I feel like my body is changing. It's wierd to feel and see my body being different from what it used to. My size in clothing hasn't changed much, maybe a size and a half or so. But what gets me is that since I have started doing strength training more, and toning, my muscles are becoming more defined, and it actually surprises me. I'm like 'hey! Who's thigh is that?!!! Mine? Naaaaaah!' It's like I can't believe it I guess. I even sometimes wear the same clothes I was wearing about 15 lbs ago, not realizing that they are too big. Not until someone tells me. It's like my brain can't realize it.

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6/29/12 11:55 P

no way!

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6/29/12 11:53 P

Heck no! :)

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6/29/12 10:26 P

nope

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6/29/12 10:24 P

Not!!

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6/29/12 9:58 P

not sure on this

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6/29/12 9:44 P

no

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6/29/12 8:45 P

Yes, I've been fat my whole life and now that my mother weights less than I do and she's still saying she's fat I see what people mean when they say you don't realize you're thinner. I was never good at handling the attention. I always think the person making the remark is making fun of me even if they aren't. Just how I'm wired and I never figured out how to just take the attention and move on.

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6/29/12 8:07 P

A little bit...

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6/29/12 7:08 P

nope....... the only issue I have is that IF/WHEN I ever get to the weight I want that I still won't be able to eat whatever and when I lost weight before that's what happened by restricting all the stuff I liked to eat....... I didn't feel "normal"....... "normal" people can have pizza and not have it add 5 pounds..... "normal" people can have a piece of cheesecake and not add 5 pounds........ I'd like to be "normal"

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6/29/12 6:58 P

It's interesting to read everyone's feelings on this subject. I admit that I don't really understand people saying that overweight people are "invisible." It seems to me that heavy people are generally noticed more than thin people, but in a negative way rather than a positive way.

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6/29/12 6:33 P

You have got to be kidding? Thin is why I am here.

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6/29/12 5:35 P

My brain wants to be thin, but I think my "cave woman" body is preparing for the next ice age. Jon Gabriel may be right, my body wants to store fat so that I will be "safe" and won't starve to death. Fat!!! chance of that happening. I did manage to go on a cruise and not gain any weight, but I walked like crazy, swam every day and ate mostly veggies and fruit. I "tap" and "visualize" and measure out my calories. At least I am maintaining, but it is time to lose some more.

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6/29/12 2:02 P

No longer afraid of being thin. I had the opposite problem: I was skinny. All through school I was the skinny girl. I was cute, but in the girl-next-door way. At one time I was even labeled a "plain jane." The main reason was because I was too skinny. At first I didn't think anything of it until puberty hit and everyone around me filled out except me. It was tough to take. Eventually I "developed" enough to attract minimal attention, even though I thought I was too small. By the time I had my second daughter, I came home 10 lbs. smaller than my pre-pregnancy weight due to an emergency delivery and week-long hospital stay. I hated my body so much that I started eating anything that would put on the weight just to look like the good looking ladies. Well that didn't work as planned.

Four years later, husband no. 2, new baby and this time the weight won't leave. It's now been 15 years of yo-yo dieting and exercise phases and I have finally gotten my head right. With my weight now affecting my health, my lifestyle change has a different priority: lose weight/improve health. I now realize that being thin was not a curse for me but more of a safety mechanism because it kept my body healthy. It also taught me that my outer body does not define me, but what's inside. Whether I'm too slim (skinny), just right or too big, it is no longer about someone else's opinion of me, but simply my own. Now I just want to be healthy and with that comes the added benefit of being slim.

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6/29/12 11:06 A

Terrified!!!

I grew up obese and lost the weight in my early 20's, and have since put about 1/2 of it back on. I'm worried about the attention I get when I am at an ideal weight. It really caught me off guard how differently people treated me when I was thin as opposed to when I was at my heaviest.

Girlfriends get catty, male friends get flirty, coworkers talk about you behind your back, strangers are nicer to you... being hit-on on a regular basis probably scares me the most, I get anxious and embarrased and I dont know what to do with myself. Although I was physically bigger, I found it much easier to 'hide' in a crowd when I was obese than when I was at my ideal weight. The attention was part of what ruined my last serious relationship and now that I'm engaged and trying to get to my goal before the wedding, part of me is worried about how my fiance will react.

So yes, I'm apprehensive about it and it's one of the reasons I end up sabotaging my efforts. I have to focus on doing this for my health as the number one reason and try to forget about all the rest that comes with it.

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6/29/12 10:19 A

I remember when I was in Jr high is when I first thought I needed to go on a diet. Now when I think about it that was so silly. I'm tall and at the time I was thin for my height, however I weighted more than my shorter friends so I thought I weighed to much, hence beginning of my life on a diet.
I am trying to work through the fact that I think I'm afraid of being thin also. When I'm heavy nobody wants to date me which I have discovered to be like a security blanket. I have been married twice and have dated quite a bit after getting divorced. I don't make the best choices when it comes to who I date. So being fat saves me from having to deal with dating and the games that seem to come with that. I have been divorced for 20 years and not dated for probley 8 years however at 54 I would like to find someone to grow old with.

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6/29/12 9:57 A

Yes, I'm terrified of it. I've never been thin, but I was at least at an acceptable weight at one point. I was happy at first, but it faded quickly as it proved to me how little who I was as a person really mattered. Then, I drove myself insane questioning every single social encounter, every personal relationship. Why is this person who never talked to me before suddenly being nice to me? Why are these men who would never look at me before seeming to flirt with me? What's this? A drink? Nobody's ever bought me a drink before. Why am I getting invited to more things than before? Why are people being nicer to me? Why am I getting better costumer service now? If I gain a few lbs, can I count on all of these "friends" and "love interests" to disappear? (The answer is yes, BTW)

Sure, some guy might tell you he LOVES your personality, your intelligence, your attitude, the overall essence of what makes you who you are....but he only cared about that after he cared about sleeping with you. Had you not looked good to him, he would never have gotten to know you.

Learning that it's NOT what's on the inside that counts is really REALLY rough, and it's something most people never learn. As a woman, the vast majority of your value is based on your looks. Society feels it's women's duty to be beautiful, and that society is entitled to beautiful women and they get VERY angry when they don't see beautiful women. Sure, society may poke fun at men who gain weight, but they don't become angry. When Christina Aguilera dares to gain 5lbs, people become filled with genuine rage. Just read all the nasty columns about her and hear all the nasty comments from everyone to professional news commentators right down to some random Joe at the coffee shop. Below their snide remarks lies a cry of betrayal, "How dare she betray us! How dare she not fulfill her purpose! How dare she take ownership of her own body! WE OWN HER!"

It's also why people like Janet Reno and Madeline Albright, highly educated, highly accomplished, highly important women, are tossed aside. If one of them wins a nobel prize, that's nice, but it's not like anyone REALLY cares, because they're not "hot."

People don't like to hear this because it doesn't fit nicely with their little pre-programmed, self-esteem movement lies that have been regurgitated by every pseudo-guru on the planet since the 60s, but it is the truth. They'll tell you all these lies about self worth and self esteem and confidence. It's all a lie, usually propagated by people who've never had anything to feel self conscious about....it's always fun to be degraded for not being confident, especially by someone who's a supermodel.

In their defense, it's easy to understand why they'd fall for their own BS. Having always been attractive, they've never had a reason NOT to be confident, and having always been confident and having always been well liked and well received, they have every reason to fool themselves into thinking it's not about how they look.

So, yes, it's very understandable that you'd fear being thin. It's terrifying to realize just how shallow everyone around you is and how, while who you are is important to a degree, it only matters if you're attractive first.

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6/29/12 7:13 A

Every time I get close to being thin I sabotage myself and binge. So if I'm not subconsciously afraid, then I don't know why I do that.
I don't remember a time in my life when I wasn't on some kind of diet.
It's stupid and irrational. But I think I'm afraid of being thin.

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6/29/12 4:16 A

(I accidentally hit reply, after wrong post, I'm responding to question itself.)
Half of the time I am, half of the time otherwise, HELL NO. I am in the "don't remember life when I wasn't fat" camp. I know I was okay as a child, but by the time I started middle school I was fat, and got fatter. For me, I hit a breaking point when I hit 193 pounds. I thought OH MY GOD that's like, almost 200. And it scared me at 5'4" to be 200, so it finally pushed me. I'm now 149 pounds. Since I started my weight loss at 190 lbs 2 years ago, I've lost 41. And I've still got a ways to go, but I get a little nervous because I actually DON"T KNOW when it's time to stop, what weight or body shape I will be that's just right.
HOWEVER, I had huge several month blocks in which I got scared of each new number group I surpassed, and I had a plateau. When I get past each even 10, like 170, 160, and now 150, I always pig out for a day eating a ton in a panic.
I don't even know what it will be like to be thin, because I have no actual memories of it. As a child, back then there wasn't such a huge emphasis. Now, I just want to be healthy.
I also know how the freaking world works, and the world and society favor the healthy and the thinner. I say thinner to mean people of an athletic, healthy weight, not starving.
I am SO TIRED of being considered fat, but not really but actually, fat. Friends would tell me I wasn't fat, my DOCTOR and FAMILY would tell me I wasn't fat....but I was, I just wasn't a round butterball that most people associate fatness with.
I want to have a SMOKIN' HOT BOD with good tone and muscles, cause dammit, I deserve it! I want to be viewed differently by people and men and get those raise and promotions. Sheesh, it's already hard enough getting those by just being a woman. I'm taking control.

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6/29/12 1:51 A

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6/29/12 12:40 A

It's never resonated with me to be afraid of it.

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6/28/12 11:39 P

I think we all have a fear of not being good enough, but at some point we have to figure out why we have that fear, and over come it to feel better about ourselves because we have 2 choices when it comes to fear, F Everything And Run or Face Everything And Recover......
Its up to you. I do wish you the best.

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6/28/12 10:55 P

Yes I am, because it's been so long since I have seen my feet, jk. the thing that scares me isn't being thin it's not being here in 5yrs because I have a heart attack or something, I dont want to be thin I want to be healthy, I dont want to be so small that I wear kids cloths but to not have to be considered plus size. I would love to feel sexy though.

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6/28/12 10:51 P

I'm not sure afraid is the term I'd use. It's really just the unknown. I haven't been thin since I ws 12 so my biggest fear is the saggy skin that I'm pretty sure will be evident. Being a thin child is way different from being a thin adult!! I had three kids (all by C-Section) so that probably won't help the tummy area. Not that I don't love my children, but I don't want the excess skin.

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6/28/12 10:29 P

I think if you lose the weight too quickly you don't give your emotions a chance to keep pace with the physical. This can really give you a distorted body image. I used to be afraid of regaining weight and that is sooooo humiliating... but I no longer have that fear now that I have changed habits permanently! Now I just enjoy every day being able to wear anything in my closet and have it fit and look good!

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6/28/12 10:16 P

I'm not afraid of being thin, however I completely dread having to deal with the staring and unwanted advances of guys again. The only, and I do mean ONLY, advantage of being heavy is that I don't have to worry about that very much. But if being thinner, feeling better,and being able to enjoy clothes shopping again means having to dodge the occasional creepy guy, I guess I'll live with it :)

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6/28/12 4:39 P

Possibly. The times I was thin, I dated and got married. Each time to a lazy bum. Maybe I figured being thin equals attracting stupid men, and because I've never felt attractive, took the first ones that came along (married 3 times). That doesn't account for now though, I'm living with my sweetie and have actually LOST weight.

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6/28/12 1:19 P

no

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6/28/12 1:10 P

I used to think if I was too skinny or pretty that people would attack me but I found out that people attack me anyway no matter what I weigh or how I look.

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6/28/12 12:47 P

Who me? No way! [once I get there...lol]

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6/28/12 11:17 A

I have been struggling with weight since the third grade. It took comments from one boy to get it in my head that I am nothing other than a fat girl. I have been at 104, a size 4, and could see the bones in my arms and legs, and all of my ribs, and I remember STILL seeing myself as fat and overweight. I have been fit, running difficult 10 mile races at high altitude and finishing (last, but finishing!), and yet I STILL saw myself as overweight. I think that there came a point in my life recently where I decided I would find other ways of being successful via my career and I let everything else go. I hoped people would see the success first and not notice that I was still an eight-year-old fat girl in my head. I focused solely on that and slowly, real weight crept up. Now I *am* actually overweight, and I'm finally on my way to being the teacher I want to be...and the weight has to come off. Am I afraid of being thin? I think a little bit, yeah. I' afraid that even when I am at my goal weight, I'll still see a fat girl and it won't matter...that is all everyone will ever see.

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6/28/12 10:32 A

No Way

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6/28/12 9:21 A

I'm not "afraid" of being thin, but I sometimes wonder if I'll be able to accept it. I was born a 10lb baby, have been overweight and obese all of my life. Back in early 2009, I was at my lowest (adult) weight of 172, but when I looked in the mirror, I couldn't see how far I'd come (down 60 pounds at that point). All I could see was the fat girl...still. Now that I've put all that weight and then some back on, I'd do anything to get back to that weight. When I see pictures of me from when I was smaller, I want to cry because I really did look and feel so much healthier. Shopping was great and EASY. Now, it sucks. I can't wear 3/4 of what is in my closet and that is why I'm back on this journey.

That said, I think I have to change my mindset. I grew up "accepting" the fact that I was fat... overweight... that was part of who I was. It always has been. When you accept those thoughts, they become "ok" with you in some way, whether you care to admit it or not. I now have to accept being ok with becoming smaller, thinner, healthier and this time, I have to mean it. People always say you have to accept yourself for who you are, but if you don't know what that is, and you really are not ok with who you are, how can you do that? You have to make a change. Here's to accepting becoming a new me!

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6/28/12 8:55 A

I love being thinner!

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6/28/12 8:14 A

no way

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6/28/12 8:05 A

Looking different (and better) can cause anxiety. It shows others that we are changing ourselves to, in part, improve our appearance. Let's be honest! Not a totally selfless/ humbling thing. After all why do we color our hair or wear make-up or pay for nice haircuts?
At a slimmer weight, we show we care about ourselves and have pride/value in ourselves- we are not hiding under that rock of extra weight anymore. We are exposing ourselves and others will look. I think we forget that others DO notice when we pack on the extra fat, too. Who do we notice in a positive way versus a negative? We must remember that this change has taken us hundreds of daily food/activity decisions. It has been and will be hard work. Not everybody is going to be strong and determined enough to see it through. Don't apologize for looking better and don't be afraid to show the world!

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6/28/12 5:22 A

no

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6/28/12 5:10 A

Ixne

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6/27/12 10:10 P

Not at all! I am looking forward to growing stronger!

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6/27/12 10:07 P

Not afraid. More like uncomfortable. I notice married women are more hostile if their husbands look at me, whereas when I'm heavier I'm not seen as a threat. I'm no stunning beauty, but I walk with confidence when I weigh less. On the other hand, I interact with people better overall when I'm in shape. So, yeah, I'm not as comfortable but I'm not going to let that stop me. This journey is all about me!

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6/27/12 9:59 P

yes a little

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6/27/12 8:37 P

Heck yes. When I got slim in my 20's I was a bit too out going and did not stay true to myself.

FITFABME:
maybe you did not experience the forward ness of some men.. but some of us ladies have and
Maybe I do keep the weight to keep men away...



Edited by: JOANNEATAUDRYS at: 6/27/2012 (20:50)

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6/27/12 8:36 P

This was great to read as I thought I was the only one who was afraid to be thin and stay that way. The sexual advances and having to set boundries has alway been a problem when I was thin and now that I'm older I don't think it will be such and issue. Also self image...when I was thin I never felt it and now that I'm so large it's always a shock when I look in the mirror. Oh what we do to ourselves!!! Thanks everyone and Sparkpeople! I don't feel alone anymore!

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6/27/12 8:16 P

Not anymore! I used to be afraid of being thin just because I didn't know how to handle the compliments and comments from people about how much weight I had lost - I guess it's a kind of reverse psychology, an admission of just how obese I was, and how much people avoided voicing it (to not hurt your feelings, or whatever). Now I just accept the compliment and say thank you, I'm no longer afraid to admit my obesity or to admit the hard road to getting thin and the hard task of staying thin.

And for a couple of you that worry about not wanting to stop, give yourself time, lose the last few pounds slowly because it takes your mind and your eyes a lot longer to see and realise what the people around you can see, if you're becoming too thin, your body will tell you it's time to stop.

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6/27/12 6:42 P

No - anxious to be there again, it's been too many years!

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