Food/exercise & new relationships

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7/19/12 12:09 P

I definitely agree with seeing if he will join you in your healthy efforts.

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7/19/12 11:56 A

I wish I had a great idea for you because I have been dealing with this very issue. I love my husband very much but he'r well, lazy in the exercise department. He even signed himself up for a 5k this past Sunday and I hope it would get him to exercise a bit. He didn't. (I have signed him up for a couple races we did together. Once he prepared, the other time he didn't.)

Since we met and married, I have actually gained back 30+ pounds back that I worked so hard to get off. He didn't know me during the time I lost the weight and was a crabby person due to the hunger. :-)

The main thing I attribute my regain to is his attitude towards my exercise. I used to work out on average 1 1/2 hours a day. He complained. I slowed down. I finally figured this out and told him about a month ago. He's backed off slightly. I am trying to get back to where I was but it's a slow battle.

I guess what I am getting at is tell this guy why you exercise and how it helps you.

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7/19/12 8:41 A

Question: what did he say when you talked to him about your concern?

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7/19/12 8:39 A

Maybe get him to join you in your healthy lifestyle!

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7/19/12 8:25 A

I would say if this is someone who "clicks" then he should understand your goals and respect them because if you feel better and are healthy, you'll be around for a lot longer and you'll have a better relationship. If he doesn't get that, maybe he's not the one. You don't need someone who will undermine your efforts to take care of yourself. Good luck!

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7/19/12 7:49 A

Hi everyone :) This is my first post.

I'm recently divorced and entering a new relationship with a great guy. I thought when we first met that our lifestyles were similar, but it turns out he is a "when it happens it happens" workout person and when it comes to food, doesnt have a CLUE.. just good genes.

Now we are spending a lot more time together, which is great, but I'm not happy with how its been affecting my lifestyle. I plan my workouts every day, with purpose and specific focus and goals, and I plan every meal and only shop for what I need, not because it looks good or because its on sale. This is how I have been successful and its how I choose to live.

How do I continue to develop this relationship and hold on to those ideals?